You will probably go mad!

We are bombarded with glimpses of Wonderland in varying shades of gray, and happily-ever-afters that end with a long, passionate kiss to a ridiculous crescendo of music. And we spend our adult lives searching for this.

This obsession with the fairyland, this unreal place-where this one person can make all your dreams come true- is always encouraged by those well-meaning individuals who ask us, “Are you seeing anyone?” “When are you getting married?”

I want to know why these questions aren’t being asked:

-Do you know who you are?

-What do you think you’re purpose is?

Wouldn’t it be amazing if we encouraged single individuals to focus on who they are AS INDIVIDUALS, instead of pushing them to find some cheshire smiling illusion of prince charming/cinderella?

If I could tell all the individuals who are single( and I’m seriously going to find a new word for that. Because the connotation is that of lack or something missing) any one thing it would be this:

Discover who the Creator designed you to be. Chase after that purpose, and when the time comes for you to be a pair, you will go into it full up and ready to give to your spouse, instead of holding your hands out full of unrealistic expectations that will only deliver disappointment.

I see so many people proclaim, if it does not happen by the time I am 30, then that’s it! I ask, “what is it?” how did we get to the point that being single in our late 20s and into our 30s, is the worst thing that could possibly happen?

Why aren’t we encouraging these amazing souls to pursue dreams, to give to others, to become the most whole being they can be?

Imagine what relationships and marriages would look like, if those who entered them were already filled to overflowing with the purpose of God, peace, confidence and joy and just waiting to pour that out onto their spouse?

I think we’d might see a lot less of divorce.